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Hey y'all!

Do you remember what it was like growing up? The awkward phases, the acne, the mood swings... the smell? Well thankfully I didn't have to deal with toooo many of those lol, but I do remember the worst haircut of my life, buck teeth and mood swings.

Well, all those experiences definitely prepared me for this next chapter of motherhood. The "transition"! While we have yet to experience the first visit from "Aunt Flow", there are other things that we have had to deal with when the girls entered the pre-teen phase.

If you aren't prepared for this transition, not only can you be blindsided by the subtle changes... you can go into an emotional state of public sobbing, private sobbing and the realization that your little girls are growing up.... Like. I. Did!

Not gonna lie, Phe and Thai definitely put me through some emotional mind frames lol.

But fear not mamas! There are a few things you can do to not only prepare, but be able to handle the transition from little girl to tween! Here are a few tips!

#1. TALK- One thing I tell my girls all the time is that they can talk to me about anything! I always remind them that I have gone through a lot in my 30 years so I know a thing or two. I want them to feel comfortable enough to express their feelings, concerns and anything else they may think of. Talking to your tween keeps the mother/daughter/best friend relationship strong and open.

#2. Read Up- Books can take away that first awkward moment. I think I was more nervous about confusing them more than anything. Once I started reading from the "growing up" books and putting on a few YouTube videos for them, I felt more at ease. I knew that the books/videos were age appropriate so everything would be easily understood.

#3. Shop Smarter- With their changing bodies, they will need tons and tons of undergarments. Bras can be pretty expensive, especially if they develop pretty quickly. Buying second hand bras can definitely save you a pretty penny. I found my girls the perfect tween bras from the thrift store for only .99 cents! I just washed them extra good when we got them home and they were good to go! I got plenty with out spending much.




#4. Stock Up- Make sure you stock up on feminine products. When your tween is learning how to use them they can get pretty giddy with them. My girls would go through 1/3 of a pack in about 36 hours lol. Little things like panty liners are so cheap so make sure you have plenty on hand!

#5. Let Them Buy It- Well technically you will be buying it but let them pick out their own personal hygiene products. For the most part, I would pick out the deodorant, soap, hand sanitizer and so on. But after having the talk with Thai for the millionth time, we decided that it would be best for her to pick her own items. When kids pick out something THEY want, they are more likely to stay on top of it. So, if you have a tween that doesn't take their personal care as serious as they should, this would definitely be more enticing!

#6. Easy Hair Care- Phe has really been into doing her own hair! She explores new hair styles, she tries new techniques and she watches tutorials. While she isn't there yet with managing her hair, she is able to do simple hairstyles like twists, bantu knots and braids. With practice, she will have it down pat! Thai on the other hand isn't really into hair styles. She just prefers to rock a fro or two buns. She is also starting to get the hang of simple brushing. Having a simple hairstyle that your tween can do on their own will help them boost their confidence and give them a sense of responsibility!

#7. Acceptance- Accepting the fact that your little girl is growing up and becoming a young woman is probably the most important tip on this list! When you refuse to treat them as a growing tween, they start to resent you for only treating them as a little child. You may cry at the mere thought of them growing up before your eyes, but no matter how much you cry, pray for time to slow down or talk about girl stuff, time will never stop and they will continue grow!

As your little girl(s) start to make this transition from little girl to the infamous tween stages, make sure you remember these tips for handling the transition! Did I miss any tips that you found to be the most helpful during your experience with this transition stage? Let me know in the comments below!


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Hey y'all!

Have you ever done something literally every day but never noticed until years later that you did it? For years I have been letting my kids sleep in whether it is on a Sunday or during the week since we started homeschooling.

I noticed that I would let them sleep in, I would grab my coffee, laptop and depending on where the kids crashed, I would find a comfy spot and "start my day". Having those 1-2 hours of peace and quiet was something that I never knew I NEEDED. Well I knew I needed ME time but I didn't realize how crucial it was to my mental health and physical health but also just how much I loved it until they started waking up early.

Look, I'm not a volunteer morning person... I will get up early if need be and deal with it. But if you ask me if I want to... in the words of my sweet P , "Nah brah" lol. I will gladly soak in the extra sleep my body and mind so desperately need. I mean I am a wife and mom so this should already be public knowledge.

I recently ran across a similar post from MYLIFESMANUAL and it inspired me to write this one. Her blog post is really great so make sure you check it out once you are done clicking around over here! 

There are so many benefits to having that special  me time before the kids get up! And while I can't list them ALL, I have compiled a list of some of the best benefits to having that special time.

So here goes!



#1. Peace- Those first few moments of quiet can really shape your day. When you wake up in a peaceful setting you are more than likely to start your day off on the right foot! No one likes waking up feeling overwhelmed or like they are already behind on their day. When you have peace your family will have peace. Make sure you give yourself that peace of mind in the morning as often as you can!

#2. Prayer Time- I do realize that not everyone prays but one important benefit of having this time in the morning to spend time with God, or meditate if you prefer. For me, praying in the morning also gives me a sense of peace. I am able to find comfort in my creator and hand him all my worries. As moms/ wives we tend to stress... a lot! Having that time to pray and draw close with God definitely helps me prepare for my day. Plus, when I pour my heart out to God first thing in the morning, I subconsciously remind myself that God is in control and God will lead my day. It's almost as if I am heading of to battle the day and God is my armor.


#3. Organizing Priorities- When I get that quiet time in the morning, I am able to make my to do list for the day, get started with any work or blogging that I need to finalize and set daily goals for myself. I am able to have a clear head, work peacefully without distractions and get stuff DONE!

#4. Grown up time- Look, I love my kids... but I can only watch so many episodes of their kiddie cartoons. There are some shows that I love that I wouldn't let my kids watch and there are a few shows I would but they have no interest in so they complain (except Fixer Upper). So, having that grown up time to watch a few episodes of whatever is nice and reassuring that yes, I am 30 and not a little kid or tween. 



#5. Cleaning-  Am I the only one that prefers to have an empty house when I clean?! I mean seriously.. I feel like there is never any progress when people are home lol. Cleaning while they sleep keeps the added mess level at zero and I am able to accomplish a few things on my to do list.



#6. I'm happier- This may sound odd, but when I get some quiet me time in the morning, I am just happier. I guess it goes back to having that peace I mentioned before.  When I have this me time, I genuinely feel like a better, happier and productive mom. 

So there you have it! My top benefits for having that special ME time before the kids rise! Like I mentioned earlier, there are so many benefits to having that special time in the morning and they each play a crucial role in my sanity lol.

I should also mention, that they are able to sleep in later than I do because I allow them to stay up later than I have in the past. When they were in public school, they were in bed by 7-7:30 and un by 5:30am. Now that we homeschool we do have a more flexible schedule! They stay up until 10pm and some days later depending on the circumstance. I am able to get up around 7 or 8 and they wake around 10am. Of course if we need to get up earlier, I adjust their bedtime but having the flexible schedule really helps! 

Are there some benefits you would like to add to this list? Any special morning routines that you love and d faithfully? Let me know in the comments below!

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