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My Goals to become a Better Mom/Wife for 2018

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Hey y'all! It is practically 2018 already and these last few days have been a roller coaster! Outside of my constant need to overwhelm myself (please tell me I'm not a lone) I have been seriously doubting my parenting skills!
I know we all like to look at ourselves and think... "WOW! I am an AWESOME Mom/ wife!", but the truth is, we all have that nagging little voice in the back of our head that says other wise. I for one have not been able to silence that voice but I can definitely go toe to toe with it.

Everyday, when I wake up I thank God for all of his blessings. I have a home, food, clothes, health and everything else we take for granted as humans. I also thank God for my family. Every living moment of my life is dedicated around my family and I realized, sometimes I take that for granted. If something ever happened to my husband or kids my life would be in shambles. I could never imagine my life without any of them! 

So, when making this list of goals, I wanted to incorporate not only the things I wanted to change but also the things that my kids and husband wanted too! Thankfully, I have 4 of the best kids ever so they were a little TOO kind lol. So my goals THEY would like for ME to reach in 2018 as a mom are as follows.




KIDS:

1.Reading bed time stories
2.Grocery shopping for more snacks
3.More decorating around the house
4.Do school only between breakfast and lunch
5.Spending more time together having fun
6.Do their hair in different styles more often

Didn't I tell you I had awesome kids!? All of these sweet goals are definitely now on my goal list and my shopping list.

HUBS:
1.Read Proverbs 31 everyday until you die!

Seriously, that was the text he sent me when I asked him lol. He is the best!

Ok, now on to me and what I would like to achieve as a Mom/Wife in 2018






MY GOALS:

1. Patience- When dealing with school time, I always carry around this huge imaginary clock that always says we are hours behind. Even though we have nothing but time to complete our work! When dealing with my husband and or my kids, I forget that they may not understand something or they may have a lot on their plate already. My goal is to remind myself that we have time to get school work done and understand that they are trying or dealing with something as well. And this brings me to my next goal!

2. Anger- Ugh.. I HATE this part of me! Most of us have moments where we turn into the Hulk. We don't want to... we just do! My lack of patience seriously brings out this ugly side of me. My kids don't deserve to be shouted at when they make a mistake, my husband doesn't deserve the cold shoulder because he didn't hear what I was suggesting. Now, I'm not an angry person.. I don't walk around with a sour look on my face or my nose turned up at the world. It's just when my patience is pushed to the limit.. so am I. I want to be able to not only control my patience but also control my angry reaction as well.

3. Laugh- I want to laugh at my mistakes more. I am no where near perfect and I don't try to put up this front like I am. I want to be able to roll out of bed as if I was some Disney princess getting ready to sing to the birds lol. I know this is going to be one of my hardest goals to accomplish but I know it can be done!

4. Spend More Time- I know this may sound crazy, but even though we homeschool and we are ALWAYS HOME, I want to spend more time with my kids and my husband. I don't want to spend all of our time going over worksheets and lessons, and I don't want to go over budgets and bills with my husband all day either. I want to take more walks, explore our city or even just throw on a good classic cartoon or movie. I want to spend the time that makes more memories!

5. Be Submissive- Yes, I said it! I am a believer in wives submitting to their husbands. If you don't cool! I don't judge, I know that not everyone believes in the same things I do. But I do believe in the order established by God. I want to learn to be more submissive to my husband, more respectful, more trusting and more supportive. I know I have done my best to be all of these things that past 11 years, but I know there is plenty of room for improvement.

6. Reflect More- Not only do I want to be more present for my family with all of these goals listed above, but I also want to be present to myself more. I want to allow myself time to step away, check my self and think clearly about what I have been doing good or bad. I want to feel less guilty if I purchase something for me and not my kids or husband. I plan on starting with one night a month where either my husband and I go out or I treat myself to a little R&R. Whether I go to Starbucks, the library or a museum. I want to make sure that I am also taking care of myself the way I am taking care of my family.

7. Pray More- All of these things will not come to pass easily if I don't put my trust in God. I want to make sure that my day starts and ends with God on my mind! Prayer has been my saving grace, especially since moving from Dallas to Kansas City. I know that once I talk more to my Father in Heaven, everything else will be a lot easier!


So, there ya have it! My goals to not only be a better mom but a better wife as well! What goals do you have for 2018? Let me know in the comments below!






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34 comments

  1. these are a lot of goals. i think coming up with goals is great. You want to be the best version of yourself and that's the most important!

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  2. Love these commitments you have made to your family. I'm working on that patience thing too! ;-) I also love how you unapologetically believe in wives submitting to husbands. It's not weakness. It's strength especially when you have a husband you know God gave you and will put your needs first.

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    1. Patience will always be a work in progress it seems lol. Yes! God gave me him for a reason! Thank you!

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  3. Well done on working out what it is you want to work on, I think having a really clear idea helps to make it easier. I am SURE you are a wonderful wife and mother but its never a bad thing to want to be the best we can. Best of luck, love and happiness for 2018!

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    1. Thank you so much! I always want to be the best I can be for all 5 of them!

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  4. What a beautiful family!

    These are definitely attainable goals and I love how real with yourself and with us you’re being. I don’t have a family of my own yet but these were worth note taking.

    Xx,
    Aïchatou Bella

    www.stilettosandstandards.com

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  5. Those are such an awesome goal this 2018. to become a better mom and wife is the best of all.

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    1. Thank you kindly! I appreciate your comment!

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  6. These are great goals! Looking forward to hearing all of your success in 2018!

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  7. These are wonderful goals to have for 2018. I definitely understand the anger and patience piece. Both of those are super hard qualities to control. I know you can do it, can’t wait to see how your 2018 goes! Happy new year!

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    1. Thank you! It is always nice to know that I am not a total psycho and others struggle with the same thing lol!

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  8. I love reading other people's goals - they make me feel so inspired and you've got a set of beautiful ones here! Your ideas to ask your kids and husband for goals is great. I'm kind of scared of what mine would say to me... ;)

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    1. I was TERRIFIED! I didn't want my kids to say something I thought was true lol. Turns out, I was being harder on myself than they are!

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  9. Great list of goals. You've got me thinking about my own now.

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  10. These are great!! I also have goals to be a better wife this year! I got married in april of 2017 and i think my biggest probelm is still being in rhe mindset that im single and not married which is not good! Thanks for sharing!!

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    1. Congratulations on your nuptials! When I first got married I struggled as well. It is going on 12 years and I am still lacking lol. Just remember, it's not a race but a marathon! The point is to just finish!

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  11. Patience and controlling my anger are part of my goals as well! I hate it, but it's there.

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  12. These are some good goals, I love the ones your kids chose for you. Just curious, did they choose any for them? I hope you are able to achieve them all!

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    1. We usually talk about their goals on a weekly basis. They are always wanting to try and improve on something!

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  13. Angela Ricardo BetheaJanuary 3, 2018 at 4:38 AM

    Wow!! We have the same goals this 2018 to become a better and the best wife and mom to my little king.

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  14. These are some amazing goals! Definitely what I would also like to do as well! Praying more has always been my goal but stronger and of more priority this time around!

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  15. The facet that you are attempting to try to be a better mother and wife shows that you are a good mother and wife. You have inspired me to put more effort into being a better dad and husband.

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    1. Thank you Steve! That really means a lot! Us parents are in this together!

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  16. I love the laughing at mistakes more. That is a resolution that I need to adopt!

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    1. Thank you! It is definitely going to be a work in progress lol

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